Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Mothering Issues

Current Issues to be addressed:

1. Bedtime for girls (sleep vs play)
2. Sleep for DD2 (won't stay in bed long enough to fall asleep)
3. Night waking for baby (has slept through the night less than 5 times in 15 months)
4. Language usage (stupid, poo-poo and other such vocabulary)
5. Respect! (Mommy and Papa! Siblings and self!)

I broke down into tears this morning. Being a mom is sometimes so hard, isn't it? It may also have had something to do with the fact that I haven't had a solid night of sleep in days (weeks, months, a year) and I've been up since 2:30am. Oh, I had a little sleep here and there between then and 6am. First, next to the bed of my 4-year-old who, at 2:30am, came into my room because she needed "someone to sleep with." Big sis tagged along, but only for help to find her lovey, lost in blankets.

My oldest settled quickly back into sleep. Little sis, however, pleaded with me to stay. Actually she pleaded to sleep with me in my bed. I am fed up and frustrated with her go to sleep and stay-in-bed issues. Every night is a struggle. I often wake up to her sleeping next to me. I held firm this night. She would stay in her bed and I would stay with her for a few minutes. She's still in a toddler bed, so I sat on the floor and rested my head next to hers. I think I fell asleep the second my head hit her pillow. I slept there until around 3:30am. Enter issue number 3, as listed above.
I can't sleep!
The boy had a high fever Sunday and Monday, but was back to normal yesterday. He's STILL getting those molars and now a couple more teeth have joined the party, just about to break through. He screamed and screamed. He fought the administration of teething relief.

"Back to sleep, little one." Mommy says! My bed and I were reunited for approximately 3 minutes. Well, I'll try the bottle then. Yes, I'm STILL offering him a bottle in the middle of the night, but it is no longer blissful. This is another one of my mothering issues. I should not be doing this! But I am not prepared to have the entire house awake at 3am instead of just him and I. Normally, he goes right back to sleep. But this was not to be the case last night. Oh, no.

I tried to sooth him, sing to him, rock him, leave him to settle himself. Alas, nothing. It was probably close to 4:30am when I gave up and took him to my bed. He settled quickly and finally we slept. Beautiful sleep. For exactly 30 minutes. Hubby took him downstairs then. 45 minutes of sleep. Time for Papa to get ready for work. Time for Mommy to insert her caffeine I.V.

7:00am. What do you know? The boy is ready for a nap. Sleep well, little one. The girls are awake. The day has officially started.

On the bright side, I got a shower while Papa served breakfast! And two hours later the girls are at school and the boy is still sleeping (thanks again to Papa who took the girls to school so I didn't have to wake the boy). Do you ever find that in the middle of your complaining you find a train of thoughts leading you to what your most thankful for? I just did. I'm sure tired, but I'm so lucky to have such a wonderful husband. I'm so lucky to have three beautiful and healthy children. I'm so lucky to have the power of observation that allows me to see what works, what doesn't and what I need to do to change it.

Now, if I could just get enough sleep so that I may have the energy to follow through!

10 comments:

  1. Oh goodness. I'm so sorry you are so sleep deprived. I can't imagine what it's like with more than 1. I'm frustrated that The Boy won't go back to sleep in his crib after is middle of the night bottle. I can't imagine if I had multiple children not sleeping.

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  2. Thanks, LB! I always appreciate your comments. If you decide to have more children, though it is often very fun and rewarding, you will NEVER SLEEP AGAIN! Apparently.

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  3. Greetings!

    Stopping in from the Wednesday hop, and am now a follower.

    Stop by if you get a chance!

    Coupon Clippin' Daddy
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  4. Oh I'm sorry, those days can be so tough! ((HUGS))
    Visiting from the blog hop - I'm now following you & would love a follow back - thanks!
    I hope the rest of your day is better!
    ~Erika
    Musings from a Stay At Home Mom

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  5. HUGS!

    My daughter had issues adjusting to sleeping all the way through the night and to sleeping by herself. Her biological father beat me so I left him when she was three weeks old and we lived in a battered women's shelter and shared a bedroom for a long time. From there we moved in with my mom for a while until I made enough money at my job to get a place of my own. AGAIN we shared a bedroom. The first 5 years of her life we pretty much shared a bedroom so when I got an apartment then when I moved in with my current husband (now married 3 years) it was very hard for her to adjust.

    My advice to you is to just set limits and be consistent. Offer rewards for the behavior you want. With L. we set up a sticker chart and if she went to bed and stayed there all night by herself without getting up she got a sticker if she got five stickers she got to pick a prize like an extra half hour of one on one time with me, a movie, bowling, or something extra special.

    Hope that helps some. Good luck to you.

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  6. Loved your appreciation for DH. I too am lucky to have a partner who is equal in parenting responsibilities. Hope you find the time for some rejuvenating and restful sleep! I'm your newest follower, hope you're able to stop by and say hi! ~Jamie

    http://www.SaysJamie.com

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  7. Wow sounds like a day here (or shoudl I say night) at my house. As I am ignoring my moaning 7 month while I type. I have the two oldest sharing a bedroom right now- so when one wakes up they wake up the other one. I personally can't wait until they are older and out of my house- I plan on calling them every night @ 2 am! (jk)
    Thanks for the following- Aimee from Classified mom. oh and gotchya back!

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  8. Hello,

    That sounds like me when I was in high school babysitting my sister and brother. Whew, I am so glad that they are older (teens0 now, lol. Visiting you from the blog hop, newest follower.

    http://mienkintoshfairie.blogspot.com/

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    Really like your blog!

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  10. ugh, I haven't slept in like 4 years I think!

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