Friday, December 3, 2010

Marriage Matters: Date Night!

Do you date your husband? I do and I love it. We don't have a regular night set aside, but we do try to have a babysitter at least once a month to get out and have dinner on our own. We're foodies. We love our wine. We love the whole dinner thing. Kids kind of wreck the experience, know what I mean?

It's not what you do that is important, however. It's the simple fact that you get out with your husband or partner for one-on-one time together. No children, no distractions from one another, doing something you both enjoy and interacting with each other.

When kids come along marriage changes. You're no longer just a couple, but a family and it can be a very difficult transition. Many parents make the mistake of putting their children before their marriage. Yes, that's a mistake. It is one major reason that so many marriages fail in the first three years after having a baby. I've said it before, your marriage is the foundation of your family. You've married your husband "until death do we part." Divorce rates show that not so many people uphold that vow anymore. My husband and I will, because we've chosen to do so. We choose to do so every single day. We put each other first. Not before a hungry baby or a boo boo, but in the big picture. Because to us, marriage matters. Our marriage matters to us. And by making it our priority we benefit our children. Our happiness makes our children happy and that's what we all want, right? Happy children. Happy lives.

Date night makes us happy. So does leaving bedtime struggles to the babysitter once in a while!


  1. Great post and I concur! My hubs and I have to wait for the Church to have date night for us to have a sitter, but we go to every one! ;) 3 hours every 6 weeks saves out very crazy marriage!

  2. I know we SHOULD but honestly, we gave up on trying to find someone we trust to watch the kids. We talk about it all the time, but it just never comes to fruition! :(

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  3. I haven't read the book you advertise, however, I believe date nights are important too. I've been married for over 10 years and we have had date nights from the beginning.

    When kids come along you sometimes get lost in the kids stuff and activities and if your not careful you can forget why you got married and put each other last which is not a good thing to do.

    We try to do something new or differrent even if its going to a McDonald on a ritzy side of town. lol

  4. It's been about a year and a half since my husband and I had a date. With him being deployed and us not having a babysitter, it's impossible. But I do think making our marriage a priority is important and we do what we can!

  5. Great post! I agree, date nights are a MUST in marriage. My husband and I also try to take one atleast one time a month. We love movies that make us laugh and we also love to go bowling. Just depends on how much we have to talk about that date night! Either way- it's about quality time and going without it makes marriage awfully tough.

  6. Yay for all of you making time for your marriage! Thank you all for thoughtful comments and welcome to my new readers!


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